Old Year's Reflections for a New Year's Beginnings

Written by: Kamillia Kelley

New Years resolutions are easy to make and hard to keep, as we’re beginning the New Year, I’ve been reflecting on a few things 2018 taught me. These may not apply to you, but they may be nice reminders.

Reacting is not productive, accepting is healing.

The last few months of 2018 got a lot of reactions from me. Most reactions out of hurt and attempts to fix things that couldn’t/shouldn’t be repaired. After many years, it took becoming a mom to finally make me see: sometimes, things are better off left broken. Just because it used to work, doesn’t mean it still should. And that’s okay. Show your kiddos that you know when to walk away and move on to a new chapter.

Fed is required, breast is natural, and formula is life saving.

This one I already knew, but I didn’t know how to articulate it properly. Being a formula baby myself and then using formula during Karsyn’s first week, I’ve been thankful for it since day one. On top of that, I exclusively have breastfed for over a year now. I’m ridiculously blessed by that. So point being, a baby being fed is not best it’s a requirement and it’s not formula vs breastmilk. So, if you have an opinion on breastfeeding or formula feeding regarding a child that isn’t yours: keep it to yourself and support the parent in whatever they need.

Friends you made overnight can be far better than the ones you've known for years.

I have loads of friends from school but none of them were those solid, true friends. Man, did I want them to be but I realized that the best friends I made practically overnight (Jill, Amanda that’s you) are the best friends I have ever met. We’re on year 2 and honestly, they’re not my friends anymore... they’re family. That’s how it should be. Don’t settle for less.

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If I can handle working, being a mom, & a wife I can handle anything (and so can you).

I’ve been nannying, acting as a caretaker, running a mom-owned shops’ social media, attempting to blog, running my daughters brand repping, and so much more all at the same time. Needless to say, it’s been insane but I’ve still made my family proud, kept my husband happy & my daughter healthy, and my friends still love me.

Back roads and music heals the soul.

Alright, so maybe juggling everything above isn’t that easy. Us moms can handle a lot but that doesn’t make us literal superheroes. So, I’ve learned that driving back roads with music blaring while someone else has my kiddo is great self care. Even if I’m on my way to the grocery store!

Keep that one in your back pocket, mama.

Treat family with care and don’t forget to say thank you.

My in-laws, (grand)parents, and other family members have been our saving grace this year. They have watched/spent time with our Little Crouton every single time we’ve needed it and they’ve done it without expectations or requirements. We do our best to take care of them as well because our marriage would not be thriving if it weren’t for you all. We say it often, we say proud, and we say it from the bottoms of our hearts but here’s another for good measure: thank you for all that you do.

Mamas, don’t forget this one!

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I chose the best person in the whole world to be my best friend, husband, father to my children, and soulmate.

After spending five years with my husband as purely my partner and friend, I knew I chose right. But that all changed after one year of being parents together. He has surprised me on so many different levels and I couldn’t be happier. My husband has found the time to make me feel beautiful keep romance included, and support our family all while being the best father I have ever seen since my own. Appreciate your husbands, mamas, because I know I would fall apart without mine.

Just because 2019 is a new year, doesn’t mean everything is going to be different.

If you want things to be different, you have to slow down. Look at everything that you want to be different and think how they ended up this way in the first place. After that, figure out what you need to do to make it different and don’t let any of those things involve anyone but yourself. If you want a change, it needs to start within you first. And let me tell you: you can do it.

Bring it on, 2019.